Hi Guys
I want to join in with this as I am going through something VERY similar but I need help with it all the same!
I am notoriously unlucky in love and a few years ago had my wedding cancelled, I have been on dates since but nothing that had the 'wow factor'. Well around Christmas I met a guy online, hes 30 and I am 26. We were talking and dating for a month and a bit and he would take me for nice meals, cinema, came to see me when I was ill. He arranged all of the dates and was very positive.
On our dates he was always smiling, trying to touch me and body language was so positive that I started having stronger feelings. I was so happy UNTIL his ex got in touch two weeks ago and he started to get quiet. They were together a year (no kids, not engaged and not living together) and she was pretty crual to him- he booked a big holiday for them and she had a minor argument with him the night before and refused to go- he lost the money. She had a 30th birthday party and kept it secret from him so her own BF didnt go, and he ended it with her at the end of last summer (hes only been single around 4 months).
After he went quiet I tried to talk to him about it, he blamed work and arranged another date- I thought it was all fine, then he cancelled the date and actually rang me up, he spoke to me for ages saying he clicked with me, im ten times the woman of anyone hes ever met including his ex, but her calling has sent him off course and hes now thinking hes not ready for anything serious, he wanted to stay dating me at his own pace to which i agreed. But what happened after changed it, its like he started fretting, I could hear it in his voice when we spoke and he ended up saying he wasnt ready for anything and he wants so much to be ready but it isnt fair on me if hes not ready. He sais he wanted to remain friends and that when hes ready we can try again, but since then for about a week hes been quiet.
I have been so gutted about it and I am not sure what to do. I also said to him that I am a tough cookie and if hes blowing me out, he doesnt have to say why just that something doesnt fit with us- he rang me and went out of his way to say no thats not it at all and he thinks im great in every way and hes def not taking his ex back. I do know though that shes been i touch a couple of times on the phone.
Help!
